Blasts from the Past: Reconnect or Release?

6464688535_4237ff09c4_zBlasts from the past can be exciting but more often than not they leave us feeling confused, anxious, and unsure of exactly what to expect or what we should do about this person’s sudden reappearance.  When someone suddenly pops out of the woodwork there can be a multitude of reasons, and understanding why it is that they’ve chosen to contact is your first step towards deciding how to deal with the situation.

Recurring Patterns

This is what I often refer to as getting ‘stuck in the rinse cycle’.  Let’s say I dated someone some years back and the relationship always had a fairly imbalanced energy flow, in other words I was the giver and the object of my affection was pretty much a taker or non committal.  After a number of years, he reappears, seemingly sorry, but it soon becomes clear that things are still the same, even years down the line.

Often times we’ll connect with someone and when things do not work out in the short term we choose to go our separate ways. After some time, the person we connected to may feel remorse, but unless some substantial growth has taken place, he or she is likely to repeat past patterns, and likely to draw you into the same situation, even if the reconnection happens years down the line. The motivation in a situation such as this is usually the needs of the other person, meaning he or she still ‘needs’ you for something or ‘need’ something from you but are either incapable or unwilling to give as much of themselves.

Finding Forgiveness

On occasion a reconnection or a sudden blast from the past may be preceded by genuine remorse and a desire to ask for someone’s forgiveness.  In situations such as these, it’s best to forgive and move on, because once the act of forgiveness takes place it also removes the need to reconnect.

This is one of the more tricky situations because the sudden blast from the past doesn’t mean that this person is necessarily meant to be a part of your future but that you are meant to forgive or release them so that both of you can continue on without the restraints of negative energy or emotions.

Reconnecting for the Right Reasons

Sometimes, a reconnection happens for all the right reasons. It may mean that timing was off in the past or that one of you were somehow unavailable or not ready to connect on a deeper level and that things have since changed.  If this happens, a true reconnection can occur and is definitely worth the time and energy.  Friendships and romances that are renewed in this way have the power to last because both parties understand their role and are ready and willing to give of themselves to the extent needed to keep the connection strong.

Coming Full Circle

On the odd occasion, a blast from the past may be in order to bring a situation full circle.  This could happen for a number of reasons. It could be to show you just how far you’ve come, and how much you’ve grown since this person left your life, or it could be to give you the opportunity to assert some boundaries or be the bigger person.

When this type of reconnection occurs, there’s often a deep remorse from one side and a need to share just what he or she has been through in the time you were not speaking to each other. What I’ve heard most often are tales of how this person found that life just went ‘bad’ somehow or that they experienced ‘bad luck’ or got hurt again and they remembered how their actions may have affected those they were close to. In other words, they realized just how their past actions have contributed to their own experiences.

This is truly karma at work and when you find someone re enters your life under similar circumstances, forgive them and release them to their karma.  It’s not only the Universe’s way of bringing things full circle but also to show you that there’s a certain balance to things and that you’ve come a long way since those days.

How to Deal with a Blast from the Past

The initial contact may be a shock or you may feel tempted to jump right in in order to try and resuscitate the relationship or friendship, but before you get involved, take the time to talk to the other person in order to see what his or her motives truly are.

If you’re communicating with someone and you’re seeing old patterns repeat, ie, someone who knew you only when you were useful, and they suddenly come back round asking for your help, it may be time to sever the ties.  If there’s a genuine desire to reconnect, allow them to meet you halfway and do some of the work needed to re establish that connection between you.

The trick to dealing with this type of situation is understanding exactly why this person chose to make contact with you again.  If it’s purely to take advantage or to drain your energy, release them lovingly and move forward.  It may well be that he or she hasn’t yet learned what they need to in order to be a positive part of your life.

In my experience blasts from the past serve a few purposes and if handled correctly, always bring a positive outcome, even if it’s in the form of insight into my own growth and personal progress.  When dealing with a situation such as this, always trust your instincts. Your intuition will never steer you wrong and help you deal with the situation in a way that is both positive and healing.

 

Furry Angels and Animals in the Afterlife

Over the Rainbow Anyone who has ever loved an animal will know that there hides far more behind those soulful eyes than a lot of people realize.  I’ve been lucky enough to share my life with many a four legged, furry, or feathered angel and each one has brought something unique to my life in his or her unique way.

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Raven lived with us since her birth, she was born here and raised here, and had four beautiful years as part of our family.  Two nights ago, she was taken to the other side very unexpectedly and very suddenly.  She’s not the first ‘fur child’ we’ve had to give back to heaven, but she held a very special place in my heart and having lost her really made me ponder the afterlife and what it is that happens to our beloved pets when they cross over.

Animals have Souls

I remember a puppy we lost when I was around 9 years of age. He was only with us for about 3 months but we loved that little guy so much.  I was in church one Sunday and it occurred to me that I didn’t know whether he would be in Heaven or not, so I asked.  I was told that animals do not have souls and therefore they cannot go to heaven.  That was devastating news, and since then I intuitively felt that that could not really be the way things were. Why would a Higher power create such beautiful and loving beings and not give them souls?

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Since then, I’ve learned that animals have souls, they connect with us every bit as much as we do with them.  I have had numerous experiences that showed me beloved pets were still watching over me from the other side or guarding me in Spirit.  We lost a beautiful boerboel pup, Bella, at the age of five months. We had to hand rear her from about 9 days old as her mother was unable to take care of her, so she really was our ‘baby’. After her passing I woke one night to the sound of a largeish dog trotting down the corridor towards our bedroom.  I immediately sensed that it was her, and knew that she wanted me to know she was there.

Confirmation from Spirit

I’ve also been shown animals in spirit form by my Father shortly after his passing. I do not work as a medium professionally but have been able to connect on occasion and often receive messages from departed loved ones in my sleep.  He showed me something similar to a candle flame but much brighter.  He also told me that our pets were with him and he referred to a dog my Mother and him owned just before I was born, which just confirms that the ties of love are never broken, not even when a fur child crosses over.

I’ve had signs and have sensed Raven with us since her passing, and she’s as sweet and as gentle as ever. I was working on a painting in the garage when, out of the corner of my eye, I saw a large dog trotting towards me. My first instinct was to reach behind me and I almost said “Hello little Raven”, when I looked behind me and realized it was Odey. In that moment, I still felt Raven with me and I know that she’s watching over us even now. It still difficult seeing Odey and Elsa on their own and instinctively I almost expect Raven to join them, but I know she’s still with us, and them, in spirit.

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On the occasions when I miss her too much, all I need to do is go outside. Elsa and Odey are waiting, more often than not, ready to comfort and to lick away the tears. I have realized that each and every pet we own or ‘fur child’ we bring into our lives is really on loan from the other side or heaven, and sooner or later they have to return, but the time we get to spend with them is a blessing and each and every day is worth being grateful for.

 

 

Energy Exchange and the Art of Enforcing Boundaries

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I spent the day yesterday with a friend and I was blessed with some insightful revelations during our time together. One of the topics we touched on was the art of setting boundaries and energy exchange, and this has been somewhat a recurring theme for me over the last few weeks.  I’ve been wondering where to actually start with this blog post, so here goes. Boundaries: we all have them, but are we truly enforcing them?

Empaths and Boundaries

Being empathic means that you’re very ‘plugged into’ or in tune with the emotions of others, and the end result is, more often than not, wanting to help, comfort, or please others, so that they’ll feel better.  I’ve had so many instances where I felt guilty for not being able to help more, or to give more, or to be more to the various souls that cross my path, and subconsciously I suspect I was even beating myself up over it.

I believe that empaths give more, because we want to be surrounded by happy energy, and we want the world to be a better, happier, and brighter place.  This in turn tends to blur the lines between giving within our boundaries and giving more.

Energy Exchange

‘Energy exchange’ has been one of those phrases that were hard for me to really put to work in my life and what it means, in it’s most basic form, is that we should give and receive in equal measure.  In other words, we have to allow others to exchange their energy for ours.  Energy takes various forms, there’s time, there’s affection, there’s service to others, there are physical objects or gifts, or even currency.

Allowing someone to participate fully in the energy exchange enriches their own lives, and I’ve been learning that by taking the opportunity away from someone to do so, through giving too much too freely, I’m doing them and myself a disservice.  Both parties need to be active and take part in the exchange to benefit from it.

Understanding the Signs

Frustration is one of the biggest signs that someone needs to set boundaries and enforce them in order to be happier and to feel that sense of flow and balance in their own lives.  I found myself burning out, feeling frustrated, unhappy, depressed, and angry and couldn’t quite figure out why, until it hit me: I wasn’t setting or enforcing proper boundaries.

This was not just true in the professional sense, but also in a personal capacity.  The urge to please others and to ensure that they are happier, took a toll on me because that became my sole focus. This bled over into my work as well and the demands and expectations of others weighed more heavily on me because I not only felt their expectations but enforced it on myself as well (Talk about a double whammy!)

I found myself giving, and giving, and giving, and bending over backwards to please, but I was doing so from a place of frustration.  I learned that I wasn’t giving because I wanted to, but because I felt I was being forced to.  Giving from a place of joy brings more joy, because whatever you send out multiplies, and I was multiplying my own frustration and anger at feeling powerless.

One of the biggest signs of clues to understanding whether you’re sticking within your boundaries is to check how you feel.  Are you doing or giving with joy, an open heart, and a happy attitude? Or are you feeling trapped, angry, frustrated, or violated? If the latter describes your state of being at the very time of giving, you shouldn’t give.  Feeling negatively is just one way you’re letting yourself know that it’s time to start honoring your own needs and that there’s imbalance in the give/take of energy.

Setting Boundaries

We all have boundaries tucked away in our ‘inner cupboards’ somewhere, hidden away where they hardly ever see the light of day.  I found myself digging mine out and dusting them off to have a fresh look at how I would like to live my life and what I need in order to feel better about where I’m at and what I’m doing.

Setting a boundary can be as simple as just learning to say No.  This is such a basic principle that it works in pretty much any area of life. Relationships, money, work, family, all you need to do is say No and give yourself permission to do so.

What I’m trying to share is that if you’re unhappy and finding yourself in that frustrated or depressed place, look at your boundaries and whether you’re truly honoring them.  If not, make a few changes and see how it changes the way you feel.  For me, this particular realization was a huge eye opener, because I believed that, on some level, I am meant to be giving the way I was.  It brings to mind the saying “One cannot serve from an empty vessel”.  If your own boundaries are honored, and your own vessel is full, there will be more than enough to serve not only yourself, but others as well.

 

 

 

 

 

Rune Readings and Spirit’s Sense of Humor

IMAG0096  It’s been a while since I’ve done a blog post and I felt it’s high time I started to post most often. This is after all my way of connecting and communicating with all of you who visit the site and show an interest in me and what I do. Thank you for being here and for taking the time to have a peek into my world!

  This morning was an eventful one and I managed to get quite a lot done, including preparing the materials for my May special (which happens to be a rune reading, or am I letting the cat out of the bag a little?) If so, forgive me.  I was having my morning cup of coffee when I realized that it’s nearly time to decide on what I’ll be offering both as my monthly special and as a monthly competition/giveaway.  My bag of runes had been put aside for a while as it’s a tool I most often use to read for myself – I’ve never used it for professional purposes because I felt the energy was somehow different and more intense than the tarot or angel card readings.

I have been drawn to offering a rune reading for some time now and this morning, I thought “Should I offer one for the month of May?”, when my inner voice/Spirit spoke up and said “If you can find them, go for it!” (followed by a hearty laugh)  The fact is my runes actually went missing for a while and no matter where I looked or where I searched I just could not find them and Spirit was having a grand time reminding me!

IMAG0093I decided to have a laugh about it and then looked under my desk, on top of the set of drawers, and there it was, my bag of runes was practically staring me in the face.  The fact that they had appeared again was a sure sign that things had to be a little different for the coming month so I’ve dusted them off, meditated with them for a while, and decided to make them part of my May special.

So here we are, my runes and I and we’re getting ready to kick off the month of May with a bang!  I hope you’ll enjoy the runes as much as I am and have over the years and it’ll be an honor to share this with you all.

So far this morning has reminded me that not all spiritual matters have to be serious, and that Spirit does have a sense of humor (if we’re willing to listen and understand) and I’ve been reunited with my bag of runes…it’s gotta be a good sign!

 

How do Angel Readings Work?

messages from your angelsThe month of March has kicked off with a new special: “Messages from your Angels”, and I’ve since received a few questions regarding what this type of reading really is, how it works, and who I communicate with in order to complete the reading. Let’s delve into how angel readings are done and I’ll answer some of the most common questions I’ve received to help shed some light on this very special reading type.

What is an Angel Reading?

Angel readings can be similar to tarot readings in the sense that the reader will use a special deck of angel cards, shuffle the deck, set the intent or ask for guidance from the angels or your guides, and then proceed to lay out a spread and interpret the messages and topics within the spread. The nature of an angel card reading is often far more uplifting and empowering than a traditional tarot or psychic reading because it works with guidance from your angels instead of using the purely the sixth sense or intuition.

The spread used will vary from one reader to the next and some may use a simple three card spread (as is the case with the ‘Messages from your Angels’ reading) or may use a far more elaborate spread and only allow the Angels to signal when to stop drawing cards. The spread used determines how the spread is interpreted and it may or may not include predictive work.

Predictive work means it answers questions relating to the future, ie: “Will my relationship last” or “Am I going to get the job I applied for?”.  My focus with the ‘Messages from your Angels’ reading is purely to provide insight and guidance from your Angels in order to help you deal with your current situation in the best possible manner.  The correct questions to ask for a reading of this nature would be: “How should I deal with the changes at work?“, or “What can I do to heal my relationship?” etc.

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Frequently Asked Questions:

Q: What are ‘My Angels’? Are they loved ones who have crossed over?

A: No.  Usually an Angel reading focuses on delivering messages from your Angels and not departed loved ones.  I do not offer mediumship readings,  because I am not able to connect to those in spirit in order to relay specific messages or information on command. On occasion, someone may come through prior to a reading and then I share the information with you, but that is not what this reading type is about.

Q: How do you get your information for an Angel reading?

A: It works in much the same way as a tarot reading, in the sense that the cards are laid out and then interpreted with the help or assistance of your angels. Exactly what is shared is at the discretion of the psychic doing the reading and his or her interpretation of the spread.

Q: Does the information actually come from a higher source? How can you tell the difference?

A: If you’re sensitive to energy, which I am, it’s easy to identify lower vibrations.  For one, I set the intent to work with high vibrational entities such as spirit guides and Angels so that is whom I connect with when I do these sort of readings. I can easily sense low energy and shield immediately if needed.

Q: Do the Angels know my future? Can they predict what will happen?

A: The angels can see ahead but it’s much the same as with a regular psychic or tarot reading. The angels cannot influence your free will or make you do certain things, so they advise and guide you towards what will be for your highest good in times ahead. Ultimately you create your reality one step at a time by choices you make in the present; not even the angels can do that for you (though they can assist and guide you during the process).

Angel readings are very uplifting, empowering, and encouraging because they come from a place of absolute love.  This reading type is one to use for situations where encouragement or advice on how to proceed is needed and also allows your Angels to take a more active part in your day to day life.  Your Angels are always at your side, but they only intervene or assist when asked to do so. So, if in doubt, ask your Angels and they’ll be there to assist.  If you’re in need of deeper insight or more direct messages as to what the problem might be, or how to resolve a situation, an angel reading is the way to go.

 

 

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